... there are a lot of dishes to be done.
There are also a lot of memories of failed attempts to make yummy meals for my husband.
John & I celebrated our one year anniversary almost a week ago, and I realized that I have been a home maker for one whole year and I have never cooked a roast, a ham, a whole bird, or even meatballs with spaghetti. I can't even begin to tell you the conviction I had after realizing that I had been feeding him essentially the same meals over & over & over. My poor, sweet husband. He has rarely told me he didn't like a dinner I made, but he has also rarely raved over something I made - unless it was in dessert form.
I want to bless my husband with the food that comes out of my kitchen.
I also want to spend less of his hard earned paycheck at the store, and the longer I try to do both the more impossible it seems. I have a running list going of some of his favorite foods, but it is too short to even serve him a different meal every night for 2 weeks.
I'd love to be able to say that everything in my kitchen is homemade, from the canned goods to the bagels. I wish my freezer was constantly stocked with things we could just pull out and enjoy any day of the week. I wish I had a different and delicious meal to serve him every single night. When I feel so guilty that none of my desires are fulfilled, I have to ask myself how many of these expectations the Lord has for me, how many my husband has for me, and how many are just my ideas of the perfect home maker.
Eventually I would like to say that I have seen all of those kitchen dreams come true, but for now I need to remember that the only Proverbs 31 woman that simply woke up that way was Eve, and after the fall, even she could no longer measure up to that standard. Becoming the woman described in Proverbs 31 is not an overnight thing. It's a lifetime of lessons & experiences, learning & growing, falling, fixing, and trying again.
Back to those dishes that need to be done. Should they have been done last night? Yes. Do you know what my husband said was when we woke up this morning and I apologized for the state of our kitchen?
"Honey. It's okay."
It's okay. It's okay that I'm not perfect and that my kitchen isn't perfect.
In 25 years he might be annoyed if the dinner dishes are still not done in the morning, but for now he isn't putting pressure on his 7 1/2 month pregnant wife of one year to have it all figured out.
This is where you come in.
What are some favorite dinners in your home?
What have you found to be the cheapest meals to prepare?
What do you always make from scratch, and what do you not mind buying prepared?
What are some expectations that you alone have for yourself that your husband might be trying to tell you are unnecessary?
There are also a lot of memories of failed attempts to make yummy meals for my husband.
John & I celebrated our one year anniversary almost a week ago, and I realized that I have been a home maker for one whole year and I have never cooked a roast, a ham, a whole bird, or even meatballs with spaghetti. I can't even begin to tell you the conviction I had after realizing that I had been feeding him essentially the same meals over & over & over. My poor, sweet husband. He has rarely told me he didn't like a dinner I made, but he has also rarely raved over something I made - unless it was in dessert form.
I want to bless my husband with the food that comes out of my kitchen.
I also want to spend less of his hard earned paycheck at the store, and the longer I try to do both the more impossible it seems. I have a running list going of some of his favorite foods, but it is too short to even serve him a different meal every night for 2 weeks.
I'd love to be able to say that everything in my kitchen is homemade, from the canned goods to the bagels. I wish my freezer was constantly stocked with things we could just pull out and enjoy any day of the week. I wish I had a different and delicious meal to serve him every single night. When I feel so guilty that none of my desires are fulfilled, I have to ask myself how many of these expectations the Lord has for me, how many my husband has for me, and how many are just my ideas of the perfect home maker.
Eventually I would like to say that I have seen all of those kitchen dreams come true, but for now I need to remember that the only Proverbs 31 woman that simply woke up that way was Eve, and after the fall, even she could no longer measure up to that standard. Becoming the woman described in Proverbs 31 is not an overnight thing. It's a lifetime of lessons & experiences, learning & growing, falling, fixing, and trying again.
Back to those dishes that need to be done. Should they have been done last night? Yes. Do you know what my husband said was when we woke up this morning and I apologized for the state of our kitchen?
"Honey. It's okay."
It's okay. It's okay that I'm not perfect and that my kitchen isn't perfect.
In 25 years he might be annoyed if the dinner dishes are still not done in the morning, but for now he isn't putting pressure on his 7 1/2 month pregnant wife of one year to have it all figured out.
This is where you come in.
What are some favorite dinners in your home?
What have you found to be the cheapest meals to prepare?
What do you always make from scratch, and what do you not mind buying prepared?
What are some expectations that you alone have for yourself that your husband might be trying to tell you are unnecessary?
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